Having a blog can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it's a great way to keep far-away friends and families updated on your life and happenings and that reason is in fact why I started this blog. My first readers were my family and friends and although I sometimes regret sharing my URL with all of them (because it's somewhat limiting in what I can talk about out of respect or privacy issues), the positives outweigh the negatives and I'm glad we can keep in touch this way.
On the other hand, having a blog means that people you've intentionally kept out of your world for various reasons still have access to you and your personal life and that can be a bit unsettling. Of course, that can happen by way of the good old fashioned grapevine as well, but when you're a blogger you really don't have much in the way of an argument when you say, "but I didn't want those people to know!".
So, as you might have guessed, I've been having a bit of a struggle this week with the two points I raised above, and that, mixed with the dramatic shift in my hormones, has made me a joy to be around. Believe me, my lack of writing is more from not wanting to write things I'll later regret and less about not having anything to write. I've experienced extreme disappointment in the friends whom I know are regular readers of my blog, but have neglected to call or write to see how we're doing. There's been resentment at those people we choose not to have in our lives whom have been let in on everything that's happened by others anyway.
There's been anger towards people who make light of the swine flu because we know better than anyone that it's not something to joke about. There was indignation towards a blog that I found in my referred page stats that has totally stolen my Bump Day format with not so much as a "Hey, I stole this idea from La Petite Chic." (For the record, while doing a weekly belly bump update was far from original, the content was, and is, all mine. Please don't plagiarize.) There's still the overwhelming sadness that comes from losing our baby and then there's the guilt. Don't even get me started on the guilt. You can imagine how incredibly useful that is.
However! That all being said, I think I turned a teeny tiny corner last night and this morning and am consciously making a decision to be joyful, because after all, there are a lot of things to be happy about and I shouldn't just dismiss all that happiness.
The main source of my joy is Jonathan and our marriage. We have our 3rd anniversary to celebrate on Tuesday! (Look, a happy exclamation point! It's been a while since I used one of those.) I ordered a mini replica of our incredible wedding cake which we'll pick up tomorrow and then we're going out to The Melting Pot for dinner on our actual anniversary. When has cake and cheese ever failed to make me happy?
I'm also co-hosting a bridal shower for my fabulous cousin-in-law to be on Sunday and I seriously can't wait. I'll share photos with you all next week because I'm so excited about everything we've put together for it, including the cocktail toothpicks. You'll understand when you see them.
Lastly, I found my dream home. We're probably still several months away from being able to purchase said dream home, but still...I've finally found what I've been looking for. It's a renovated 1920's Craftsman style home in a very cute and well-established neighborhood. It's walkable to a Baltimore Light Rail station (score for home Orioles and Ravens games!). It has the original restored hardwood floors (they're gorgeous) and the front porch I've always dreamed of. Seriously, it's not like those narrow and shallow porches they're putting on new homes nowadays...it has depth and width and I'm smitten.
The only problem is that Jon and I have a bit of a difference of opinion when it comes to homes. I love old, restored homes with character and he prefers newer homes that you won't have to worry about old pipes and wires. Obviously someone is going to have to give, but I'm hoping that maybe I can convince him to go vintage. Also, I should mention that two of my major requirements for a house is that the street name is nice and non-seasonal (no Snowy Ridge Way for me) and it should also be in a neighborhood that's conducive to good trick-or-treating. I could probably bend on the street name, but I really have my heart set on a neighborhood that appreciates trick-or-treating (which means they probably also appreciate children and fun, right?). This home meets both of those requirements, not to mention that the price is absolutely right. Yes, I am fully aware of the ridiculousness but I'm a Virgo and can be quite particular. Don't you just envy Jonathan?